Remember, the bully has a plan. A plan to have power over you. Also remember this is not your fault. You didn’t cause it, you cannot control it and you can’t cure it. This is a popular phrase used with people with addictions and their loved ones. It’s the loved ones that often feel responsible to ‘make things better’ and all around the world loved ones are coached to internalize this: This addictive…
It takes most people tremendous courage to approach someone for an important conversation. Therefore, we have to ensure approachable, safe environments in order for someone to share openly. As a target of workplace bullying, most have experienced ‘less than respectful’ conversations along the way.
Here is an assessment you can take and also use to evaluate others in order to know if respect is in place at…
Most people want the best. What holds an organization back from making sure it is it’s ‘best’? One aspect is ability or skill level (competence) to be able to create something for the best. Another factor is desire or motivation (belief) to be able to move forward. Decision making becomes a constant re-calculation of time, energy and resources. You know it ‘must be done’ and ‘it’s in your best…
Most people and organizations want a respectful workplace; yet if you asked employees, some would say "there are issues" and some employees (1 out of 6) would report they are being bullied or have been bullied. The organization "keeps hoping" and the good employees "keep leaving". Employers rightfully do not want a system of "the tail wagging the dog" with little room for performance management. So how does one …
What does an organization do to create a Bully-Free at Work culture?
Question: What is a Bully-Free at Work culture?
Answer: The best way to get the truth about anything is to ask your customers. In this case, you would ask your staff on a scale of 1-5 ‘Do you feel the culture is Bully-Free’? If the response was less than a ‘5’, you would ask ‘What would make it a ‘5’?'.
Question: So what is the …
Do you want to know the single most important thing you can do for someone who feels they are being bullied? How about this: If you are being bullied and you would like the support of someone nearby, feel free to pass this message along to them as well. Here is the answer in three parts:
Time and Interest in Hearing the "Story":
If you were to look at what happens when someone is being bullied, it usually…
One of the greatest challenges a target faces is recognizing a workplace bully. Many of us find it easier to excuse the bully ("He's having a bad day") or blame ourselves ("I made a mistake again!") than to accept that we could be a bully's target. But until you accept that the workplace bully intends to make your life miserable, you're powerless to stop him or her.
Some people tell us "A bully has all the…
One of the most frequent questions we are asked is: How can I say something to the bully…not at the expense of myself or others? Many of you are saying these four things:
1. I don’t know what to say to the bully.
2. I want to say something but I am scared of retaliation.
3. I feel paralyzed and therefore I don’t stand up for myself.
4. I detest leaving an ‘incident’ where the bully got the upper…
Tackling workplace bullying involves many levels. Many think a one day seminar for employees will stop workplace bullying. While education is empowerment, more power is created when leadership supports and aligns with this education. Here are some simple (maybe not so easy) steps any leader can take in order to minimize the impact of workplace bullying.
The Situation:
A workplace is not ‘respectful’ just…
We are hired at work to produce results. There are many ways to produce many types of results, yet very often it is this confusion about "the way" which is not clearly defined, articulated and explained. Clarity assists with accountability.
An organization's purpose is to get a result; ultimately commerce is involved at some level, thus "cutting costs" and "making profits" are part of any…
