Here is some Inspiration to help you stop workplace bullying:
Inspiration is the key in creating an encouraging atmosphere. This helps to build the strength needed to take those steps you’d like to take in order to bully proof yourself and establish clear boundaries.
Consider the virtues of: Joyfulness and Tact
These words of wisdom are from the Virtues Project™ http://www.virtuesproject.com
Joyfulness
Do you remember the simple pleasures that you once experienced and furthermore enjoyed… or in-joyed?Joyfulness. Make a list of the simple pleasures that give you a warm richness of life. For me, it’s wearing cozy slippers as soon as I get home (and being in awe of that still) or seeing anything that is orange. Sometimes we just have to be reminded – do you know these things might still be able to give you the joy you deserve? Try it!
Joyfulness is an inner wellspring of peace and happiness. It is beyond ordinary happiness because it is not an occasional emotional reaction to lack or circumstances. It is a deep sense of wellbeing that fills us with delight and hope. We appreciate the gift of life, and savor its richness. We enjoy simple pleasures. We find the humor in things. We allow joy to carry us through the painful times. We take ourselves lightly and remember to play. Joy comes when we are being true to a soulful purpose. It gives us an abiding sense that all is well.
The Practice of Joyfulness
The second part of this week’s message is about Tact. We may be hesitant in confronting the workplace bully; in fact, we might be stuffing our emotions. Are we being tactful with all other relationships? Sometimes a gentle reminder is all we need.
Tact
Tact is telling the truth kindly. We think before we speak, aware of how deeply our words affect others. When our words are weighty, we weigh our words, knowing they have the power to cause pain or uplift. A harsh word to an intimate is like a grain of sand in their eye. An encouraging word can fill them with confidence. Tact is essential when we feel strong emotions like anger. It helps us discern what to say and what is better left unsaid. Tact is good timing. It is the diplomacy of the heart.
The Practice of Tact
We’d love to hear your thoughts to encourage and support others. Feel free to reply to us any time – you just might make the difference for someone today!
*Note: Your name and email will not ever appear, it is strictly used to prevent spam comments.
Valerie Cade, CSP is a Workplace Bullying Expert, Speaker and Author of "Bully Free at Work: What You Can Do To Stop Workplace Bullying Now!" which has been distributed in over 100 countries worldwide. For presentations and consulting on workplace bullying prevention and respectful workplace implementation, go to http://www.BullyFreeAtWork.com
© Bully Free at Work. All rights reserved: All trademarks used or referred to on this site are the property of their respective owners. No materials on this site may be reproduced, altered, or further distributed without Bully Free at Work’s prior permission.
You should not intentionally make yourself look stupid. If you are honest but not harsh, then you are perfect. You should not give anyone a chance to bad mouth you. That is silly. Be strong and confident, and move on. If you want to look more tactful, sometimes, ask the other person to clarify what they said. Show others that you can listen as well as you can talk. Enjoy life. Enjoy your confidence.
Bully do not care about loving or caring words
i have no tact and i never have i speak before i think, i am very honest but not harsh, i feel i make myself the butt of the jokes! if i say something i know might have offended someone then i make myself look stupit this gives the person i work with that is jelious of my posision in work the chance to bad mouth me to my work coleags and i feel this makes me look bad, the thing is i know what im doing but i feel i shouldent have to change. i have very strong work etics and work very hard but i do know my lack of tact has held me back can you give me some basic advice on how to be more tactfull using commion sence. M
I find myself having to be tactful with the same people who have made my days and nights miserable for months. But ya know, there is joy in that as well – to see myself rise above their petty behavior and do the right thing. Other staff are responding more positively to me because I am acting more like myself.
I love both of these topics. Joy is something that has not come easy to me but now that I have it, I WILL NOT let anyone or anything take it from me. Tact is something EVERYONE should use ALWAYS. Thanks for the great inspiration!