A common scenario:
Divide and conquer. Who said that? It’s been said many times as a strategy of war. Bullies do just that. Bullies know full well that once a target’s support and community are removed they have a winning chance of being able to continue the bullying. Bullies separate you from general information, social situations, your peers, tools to do your job, affection and admiration and well deserved acknowledgement and praise. They actively create a culture where you feel ‘less than’.
Here is something you must know now! This is a bullying tactic. Bullies strive to divide. So when you feel less than, what do you do? Go to your boss? Not likely. The Workplace Bullying Institute and many other researchers note that over 80% of bullying occurs with one’s boss and furthermore, targets don’t feel comfortable beating a path to HR either. Therefore, targets are often left to share their experiences with their co-workers. Employees tend to leave bosses; but employees stay because of their relationships with their co-workers. We rely on our peers to get us through the rough times. But, there is a problem in that too! Watch this short video to see why:
So what can you do? Your organization? It takes everyone’s accountable behavior for each of us to experience a Bully Free at Work workplace. Many organizations have asked us how they can get their teams to be empowered and accountable to stop workplace bullying. Remember, people can’t care about what they don’t know about! Find out what has been our most requested resource:
Creating a workplace policy to not tolerate workplace bullying is great but only the beginning. Accountability to the policy only happens when you have everyone empowered to stand up and actively stop such behaviors. If you want your manager or supervisor to know about this, remember you can always ask “I wouldn’t mind your opinion on this”! Why not get a study group together and ‘just start’? Imagine where your confidence could be by the end of the year. You deserve to get ‘back’ to the way you’d like life to be.
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Valerie Cade, CSP is a Workplace Bullying Expert, Speaker and Author of "Bully Free at Work: What You Can Do To Stop Workplace Bullying Now!" which has been distributed in over 100 countries worldwide. For presentations and consulting on workplace bullying prevention and respectful workplace implementation, go to http://www.BullyFreeAtWork.com
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