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What Can You Say to the Bully?

A common scenario:

You are in the presence of someone with a ‘strong personality’; someone who is oppositional. You start discussing something and they start contradicting you, he/she begins to challenge your facts that you believe to be true, and leaves you to second guess your facts and doubt your intentions. You call your friend (again) to go over details because ‘this doesn’t make sense’. You spend time analyzing ‘being misunderstood’ and you try to figure out what you could have done differently.

Here is something you must know now!

This is a bullying tactic. Bullies attack with logic, even if it is illogical!

Why Does the Bully Do This To You?

Remember, the bully will do whatever it takes in order to gain the upper hand because they are incapable of having shared relationships of mutual trust and intimacy with another person. If a bully feels threatened in any way, they will attack in order to win…even if it doesn’t make sense. (Have you noticed that often what the bully says sometimes doesn’t make sense to you in terms of facts and details?)

Here is a short video from Bully Free at Work you can watch to inform and inspire you to be free of the bully’s attacks.  We’re in your corner! What Can You Say to the Bully?


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4 responses to “What Can You Say to the Bully?”

  1. Hey, thanks for the article.Really looking forward to read more. Keep writing.

  2. Bully Free at Work: Valerie Cade says:

    Boundaries are always a good thing. It sounds like yours worked!

  3. Dia says:

    I have threatened to record her behavior and expose her. She won’t step into my office anymore, lol. In fact, she’s moved on to someone else to bully.

  4. Tina says:

    Always a good job right here. Keep rolling on through.

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Valerie Cade, CSP is a Workplace Bullying Expert, Speaker and Author of "Bully Free at Work: What You Can Do To Stop Workplace Bullying Now!" which has been distributed in over 100 countries worldwide. For presentations and consulting on workplace bullying prevention and respectful workplace implementation, go to

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