Have you ever been frustrated because the bully at work does not hear you? Have you found yourself working up the courage to say something, only to be ignored, dismissed, or handled? Do you find yourself feeling confused and once again going over in your mind “how to say it so the bully at work will hear me?”
Why The Bully At Work Appears Not To Hear You – 2 Reasons:
You might be asking: Are there different types of severity levels with regard to the Bully at Work? What should my approach be?
Yes, there are differing levels of severity of bullying behavior. The levels and approaches for each are listed below:
1. Minor Bullying
You can make a clear confident request, and perhaps you’ll be heard. For some ideas about setting up a conversation, check out our post on Crucial Conversations.
2. Moderate Bullying
If you are facing a moderate bully situation and your confidence is stronger, you can try a Crucial Conversation but check to see if there is any interest from the other party first. No use trying to push a wet noodle uphill.
If you are facing a moderate bully situation and your confidence is lower:
3. Severe Bullying
This type of bullying requires an intervention of policy and company rules that are enforced in order to keep the bully in line. Do not expect the bully at work to want to hear your requests. It is virtually to hold your peer accountable and you will need the support of leadership. If leadership is not supportive or you do not feel comfortable addressing the issue with someone in authority then you are left to mastering coping skills.
If you wish to still “face off” with the bully and you have tried the above, then the next step to work on is clarity, confidence and command as it relates to your ability to influence others.
Do you consider your bully at work to be mild, moderate or severe? How do you know?
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Valerie Cade, CSP is a Workplace Bullying Expert, Speaker and Author of "Bully Free at Work: What You Can Do To Stop Workplace Bullying Now!" which has been distributed in over 100 countries worldwide. For presentations and consulting on workplace bullying prevention and respectful workplace implementation, go to http://www.BullyFreeAtWork.com
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