Forceful or Aggressive: Not honoring the boundaries of others.
To get their own needs met – first as efficiently as possible.
What They Do:
Overt and direct – demand that others comply in order to meet their needs. They use direct words and tone of voice to push you into decisions you do not want.
Manipulative – A more persuasive approach that is less confrontational but creates pressure nonetheless. They seduce others and try to convince by using guilt, over-convincing chatter, manipulation and force.
Bottom line – you feel what you want or need was not heard or honored.
They have difficulty accepting that other people have needs and their own boundaries. They attempt to control others in order to feel a sense of control (they usually do not have self-control).
Cannot seem to play in the sandbox together and accept another’s limits. They cannot seem to accept another’s difference of opinion, and when faced with this difference, they resort to force in order to maintain having it ‘their way’. Others feel pressure to comply and therefore the team spirit and synergy tends to die, and people give in, withdraw and ignore.
Why Do They Do That?
What They Can Do:
What You Can Do:
Remember: It takes two to create a respectful relationship.
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Valerie Cade, CSP is a Workplace Bullying Expert, Speaker and Author of "Bully Free at Work: What You Can Do To Stop Workplace Bullying Now!" which has been distributed in over 100 countries worldwide. For presentations and consulting on workplace bullying prevention and respectful workplace implementation, go to http://www.BullyFreeAtWork.com
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