Wouldn’t it be great to say what you want to say, not at the expense of yourself or others? A lot of being able to do that is due to confidence – and that can sometimes take a long time to build. Here are 10 tips you can try, even if you are not all that confident (yet)!
1. When you want to get off the phone…“Before I let you go, is there anything else?”
2. When your long-winded co-worker says “Have you got a minute?”…“I’ve got about (2) minutes, is now good or is _________ a better time?”
3. When you’re talking to someone in the hall and they follow you to your desk… Say “let me walk you to your desk”
4. When you might not have time to listen properly…Say “Now’s not a good time for me, is ________ okay?”
5. When someone sends you an e-mail or voice mail that is not “comfy”…See them face-to-face – best communication. To really address the issue, check out our Crucial Conversation Planner (pg 168) of Bully Free at Work.
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Now back to the last 5 Tips!
6. When you want “shorter meetings”…Ask everyone if they want “shorter meetings” and then suggest an hour glass be placed in the center of the table. If someone is off topic – they have the right to turn it over, leaving the speaker 30 seconds to wrap up. Will you offend? Remember, if the promise is clear the price is easy to pay! Agree up front and you’ll have a room full of people that were glad you did it!
7. Miscommunication with someone?Discuss the “issue,” look to gain an agreement (pg. 170 in Bully Free at Work) and follow-up in writing stating: “As a follow-up to our discussion…” This documentation becomes a third party reference and you’re not the bad guy, as you’ve both agreed! Too much writing for you? Ask the other party to write their understanding of your discussion by a certain agreed upon date and to give you a copy.
8. People “complaining” and you want them to stop…
9. Someone is rude, unkind, etc.
10. Want people to return your correspondence?
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Valerie Cade, CSP is a Workplace Bullying Expert, Speaker and Author of "Bully Free at Work: What You Can Do To Stop Workplace Bullying Now!" which has been distributed in over 100 countries worldwide. For presentations and consulting on workplace bullying prevention and respectful workplace implementation, go to http://www.BullyFreeAtWork.com
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