Do you want to know the single most important thing you can do for someone who feels they are being bullied? How about this: If you are being bullied and you would like the support of someone nearby, feel free to pass this message along to them as well. Here is the answer in three parts:
Time and Interest in Hearing the “Story”:
If you were to look at what happens when someone is being bullied, it usually involves an unfair power position where the target feels misunderstood, undervalued or poorly treated.
What the target wants: To be acknowledged for having gone through something so tough, to feel understood that it has been tough and to be listened to (with sincere interest) so they do not feel alone.
What the helper does: Tries to give advice to fix the problem.
What to Do if a Target Approaches You:
Remember: There will be many things we do not understand and many things we cannot solve completely. This does not give ‘helpers’ the excuse to ignore, minimize or brush by a target’s need to gain support. Everyone in the world can give support and encouragement.
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Valerie Cade, CSP is a Workplace Bullying Expert, Speaker and Author of "Bully Free at Work: What You Can Do To Stop Workplace Bullying Now!" which has been distributed in over 100 countries worldwide. For presentations and consulting on workplace bullying prevention and respectful workplace implementation, go to http://www.BullyFreeAtWork.com
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