Forceful: Not honoring the boundaries of others.

Motivator:

To get their own needs met – first as efficiently as possible.

What They Do:

Overt and direct – demand that others comply in order to meet their needs.  They use direct words and tone of voice to push you into decisions you do not want.

Manipulative – A more persuasive approach that is less confrontational but creates pressure nonetheless.  They seduce others and try to convince by using guilt, over-convincing chatter, manipulation and force.

Bottom line – you feel what you want or need was not heard or honored.

What Happens:

They have difficulty accepting that other people have needs and their own boundaries.  They attempt to control others in order to feel a sense of control (they usually do not have self-control).

Challenge:

Cannot seem to play in the sandbox together and accept another’s limits.  They cannot seem to accept another’s difference of opinion, and when faced with this difference, they resort to force in order to maintain having it ‘their way’.  Others feel pressure to comply and therefore the team spirit and synergy tends to die, and people give in, withdraw and ignore.

Why Do They Do That?

• Fear of being taken advantage of.
• Fear of not getting the results they need.
• They feel others (might) not do it like they would, so they attempt to control.
• They have a hard time with discipline – curbing their needs to hear the needs of another.
• They are driven by impulse.

What They Can Do:

• Decide to listen, honor and acknowledge other people’s needs, and admit/take responsibility for owning their lives.

What You Can Do:

• Decide to not give into force.
• Remain calm.
• Don’t fight back.
• Assert one key statement in order to state what you want.
• Leave if too overpowering and suggest to chat another time.
• Bottom line:  Start thinking about what you want instead and making that request.

Remember:  It takes two to create a respectful relationship.

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