10 Point Assessment: What is Respect? Curbing Bullying Behavior
By admin | July 7, 2010
What is Respect? Curbing Bullying Behavior
We are hired at work to produce results. There are many ways to produce many types of results, yet very often it is this confusion about “the way” which is not clearly defined, articulated and explained. Clarity assists with accountability.
Consider This:
- An organization’s purpose is to get a result; ultimately commerce is involved at some level, thus “cutting costs” and “making profits” are part of any business.
- To attract and develop trust with customers and staff, an organization will post a Vision, Mission and Values (the “why” the organization will conduct its behavior).
- One of the top values organizations list today is the word Respect.
- One of the top sources of employee dissatisfaction is experiencing what they would call “a lack of respect”.
- There is a gap between saying an organization “respects one another”, and ensuring that if employees experience disrespect, there is an accountability system to address, correct, and continue.
So Let’s Be Clear… What is Respect?
Take our Workplace Bullying Respect Assessment to find out!
The Attitude of Respect: Rate yourself and your team on a scale of 5 – 1 (5 = Excellent, 1 = poor) on giving or receiving respect in the following situations:
- Honoring each other as valuable.
- Treating others with dignity.
- Communicating to include, not exclude or control.
- To be heard by another (seeking to understand) and to respond with courtesy and curiousity.
- Acknowledging thoughts and feelings; not discounting, blaming or forcing to comply, but to be received as real.
- Asking; not ordering, yelling at or swearing.
- Providing clear and informative answers to questions that are legitimately your business.
- Knowing the right to receive encouragement and support (rapport is caring, “report only” is no relationship).
- Speaking of others positively.
- Seeking to connect and build communication for both parties, as opposed to positioning for control.
Remember, part of the workplace bullying cycle is for the bully to confuse and thus have control over the target.
Respectful workplace relationships occur best when both parties agree the relationship is respectful.
Do You Believe In People In A Respectful Way?
Your beliefs become your thoughts.
Your thoughts become your words.
Your words become your actions.
Your actions become your habits.
Your habits become your values.
Your values become your destiny.
– Mahatma Gandhi
Valerie Cade, CSP is a Workplace Bullying Expert, Speaker and Author of “Bully Free at Work: What You Can Do To Stop Workplace Bullying Now” which has been distributed in over 100 countries worldwide. Feel free to contact Valerie to speak for your organization to inspire your organization to create a respectful workplace, to inform your people about workplace bullying and what they can do or to implement a workplace bullying policy that works.
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