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Wednesday, August 4th, 2010One of the most frequent questions we are asked is: “How Can I Say Something To The Bully…Not At The Expense of Myself or Others?” Many of you are saying these four things:
1. “I don’t know what to say to the bully.”
2. “I want to say something but I am scared of retaliation.”
3. “I feel paralyzed and therefore [...]
What Does It Really Take to Stop Workplace Bullying?
Wednesday, July 21st, 2010Tackling workplace bullying involves many levels. Many think a one day seminar for employees will stop workplace bullying. While education is empowerment, more power is created when leadership supports and aligns with this education. Here are some simple (maybe not so easy) steps any leader can take in order to minimize the impact of workplace [...]
Bullying Tactics: Silence and Violence
Wednesday, June 30th, 2010Can you recall having a wonderful 2-way conversation with someone? Yes? Good. Remember that it is possible. This memory, or anchor, can serve as your reality check when you are faced with having to converse with a difficult workplace bully and you just can’t seem to connect.
Do You?
Wonder why the bully [...]
How the Bully Avoids Accountability to a Workplace Bullying Policy
Tuesday, June 15th, 2010Workplace bullying occurs because it can. Simply put, it takes a village to raise a child; it also takes a village to support the interests of its players. The question then becomes, what game are you playing? A company or organization exists to make a profit and to attain results. To the employer, a workplace [...]
The Top 10 Reasons Why the HR Process ‘Might Not Be Working for You’
Tuesday, June 8th, 2010If an organization does have a workplace bullying process which employees can use, does it even work? Like any movement of change in society, we must start with awareness; once aware, then effective leadership is required to create the change. You cannot change what you do not acknowledge; you cannot lead without authority. Human resource [...]
10 One-Liners You Can Say to Gain Back Control from the Bully!
Tuesday, June 1st, 2010Can coping with a workplace bully be as simple as uttering a ‘one-line’ comment? Let me ask you this: What’s the alternative? To try and explain yourself will only invite the bully to deny, counter-attack and then play the victim.
The key is to not give the bully more ammunition; they will only use it against [...]
10 Tips to Overcome Procrastination in Dealing with the Bully!
Tuesday, May 25th, 2010Some people (most) would rather stick a fork in their eye than address something very difficult such as how to handle a workplace bully. Sometimes it can seem impossible and hope fades.
Here’s What Happens:
The bully upsets you.
There is increased stress, perhaps loss of productivity and an increase of personal self-doubt causing frustration for you.
You start [...]
10 Tips To Create Confidence While Dealing with Workplace Bullying
Wednesday, May 19th, 20101. The concept of self-confidence is acceptance of the many consequences of a situation; good or bad.
Question: Are you believing “If I just do this, the bully will be nicer”? It won’t happen.
Question: What do you need to do to fully accept (not condone) the bully? They are the way they are.
2. Worrying less about [...]
10 Tips: What to Say to the Bully When…
Thursday, May 13th, 20101. When you want to get off the phone…
“Before I let you go, is there anything else?”
2. When your long-winded co-worker says “Have you got a minute?”…
“I’ve got about (2) minutes, is now good or is _________ a better time?”
3. When you’re talking to someone in the hall and they follow you to your desk… [...]
Two Bully Proof Tips to Build Your Self Confidence Right Away
Wednesday, April 28th, 2010Do you want to know what Nathanial Branden, Ph. D., the Father of Self Esteem, says about building Self Esteem?
Does This Sound Familiar?
Feelings of ‘not being enough’, shame, guilt, self-doubt and self-trust adding up to an overall feeling of unworthiness as a result of being around a bully at work?
You feel like you have a [...]